Evening Out
Yesterday was our wedding anniversary and Ernesto and I got a much needed dinner out last night as my good friend Annette watched the kids. That's right, all three of them. As hard as it is to leave the baby at this tender age, even for a few hours, it did me good and today I feel so relaxed. It reminded me of how important it is to do this every once in a while and that we don't do it often enough. I remember reading somewhere that couples with small children should get out alone at least once every couple of weeks and I just laughed. That very well may be what we all need but it is entirely unrealistic for those of us without live-in nannies.
The bonus though, of getting out so infrequently is that we really enjoy ourselves when we do. We don't take it for granted and we do it up right. We went to the nicest restaurant we could afford (without taking out a small loan) and we got dressed up and indulged in a fantastic, liesurely meal. It was weird having both my hands free while eating, because there is usually a small child occupying at least one of them during meal time.
As usual though, our converstion eventually turned to the kids, as it always seems to. Ironic, since we often try to have in-depth discussions about other things when the kids are running around, but of course we never get to finish them. Then here we are alone and we just talk about them. I'm just glad that after eight years of marriage (and 11 years together) we still have lively conversations.
So if someone offers to watch the kiddos for you today, take them up on it! It will do you good.
The bonus though, of getting out so infrequently is that we really enjoy ourselves when we do. We don't take it for granted and we do it up right. We went to the nicest restaurant we could afford (without taking out a small loan) and we got dressed up and indulged in a fantastic, liesurely meal. It was weird having both my hands free while eating, because there is usually a small child occupying at least one of them during meal time.
As usual though, our converstion eventually turned to the kids, as it always seems to. Ironic, since we often try to have in-depth discussions about other things when the kids are running around, but of course we never get to finish them. Then here we are alone and we just talk about them. I'm just glad that after eight years of marriage (and 11 years together) we still have lively conversations.
So if someone offers to watch the kiddos for you today, take them up on it! It will do you good.
9 Comments:
At 3:03 PM, Anonymous said…
Happy Anniversary to both of you! I'm glad you got to spend some time alone - even if you talk about the kids, it counts! :)
At 8:01 PM, Kristen said…
Thank you, Melissa. And you're right...it definitely counts! Now I just have to wait for the next anniversary...*sigh*.
At 9:10 PM, Anonymous said…
Well I was glad to do it especially since you take Josh for me ALL the time! Who says you have to wait til your next anniversary?? I can't wait to babysit again soon :)
At 6:54 AM, HLiza said…
Hey, my anniversary was 2 days ago! We didn't get to go out alone since nobody's able to look after the kids..
At 9:34 AM, Anonymous said…
Happy Anniversary! Nice story. Don't worry about the rarity of such events...my parents revolved around all four of us daily, and they're still happily settled in together--44 years and counting (45 in October!)
At 8:55 AM, Flea said…
Congratulations guys! I even (I think) remember last year's, you posted a wedding pic??
I'm the same, even while Liam is 2,5 years old I still find it hard to leave him behind, but it does do us good.
At 4:18 PM, Anonymous said…
Happy Anniversary! It sounds like you had a wonderful evening out.
And yes you're right, sometimes you need to get out to remember that you need to get out!
At 8:41 PM, Kristen said…
annette- And I will definitely take you up on that! Now that I've gotten a taste of freedom I want more!
Hliza- I'm sorry you didn't get to go out, but Happy Anniversary! You should plan to do it some other night soon in honor of it!
Jody-Thanks! Yes, I think your parents could probably attest to the fact that you don't have time to muck up your own marriage when you've got several kids to take care of!
Hann- Yes, it's hard to leave them for a bit but I find that after a glass of wine I don't worry so much about it ;>
Ella- Thank you! It was really nice...and I am so ready to do it again!
At 3:49 PM, Anonymous said…
Late to the party... happy belated anniversary! Here's to many more! ...And hopefully to many more nights of freedom! ;)
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