The Post Not Intended For Those Considering A First Time Pregnancy
They say that each pregnancy you have is different. Entering my second trimester while carrying Sofia, I would have told you that wasn't true, at least not for me. Everything was the same as I had experienced it with David:
Only the slightest bit of "ooginess" for about 20-30 minutes each morning, during which I would just sit still on the couch or at the kitchen table sipping water until I felt better. Check.
Annoying shortness of breath sensation from about 5 weeks onward, actually caused by hormones, not really related to the lungs themselves. Check.
Absolute, ravenous hunger for entire first trimester, eating whatever was within reach, from morning until night. Especially craving cottage cheese. Mmmm, cottage cheese. Check.
Constant compulsion to nap. Check.
I had all these symptoms with David. I had them all with Sofia. Things were just as I remembered them. David was a big baby, born at 9 lbs, 7 oz. and 23 inches long. 26 hour labor, no drugs. After him I felt like I could take over the world. After about a month of sleep, of course. I imagined the next birth to be a lot like the first. But then things with Sofia changed. At about five months into my pregnancy a new sensation emerged. It was the feeling that I was no longer carrying an infant in my womb, but rather several bowling balls that at any second were going to drop right out of me and go crashing through the floor boards, into the basement. It was awful. Really awful. This is what I felt at the very end of my pregnancy with David, only during the last week or so. Why was this happening so soon? My midwives didn't seem concerned. They said the second you often carry lower because of the muscles having loosened up, etc. etc. That seemed logical enough but this feeling did not feel right. I wore one of those awful belts to help support my gianormous belly, but it didn't do much. Two weeks before I was due I was having a check up and I asked my midwife about how big she guessed the baby would be. She felt my belly and poked and prodded for a few minutes and then she stopped and frowned.
"Well, that's not right," she said.
Immediately I begin panicking. The baby has three legs. Or maybe two butts. I knew something was not right. I just knew it. "What is it?" I whisper.
"I think she's breech."
Huh. I wasn't expecting that. In fact that was one of the things I never worried about for a second. Only 3% of babies are born breech so as odds go it wasn't on my list of likely problems.
She brought in a portable ultrasound machine and confirmed her suspicions. She pointed out the head and legs to me but I had to take her word for it because the image was too grainy and I couldn't make out a thing.
Since doctors and midwives nowadays have very little experience delivering breech babies (except by c-section) I was instructed on how to do exercises to try and "turn" Sofia into the head first position. I did a modified "downward dog" (or whatever it was) move faithfully for the last two weeks of my pregnancy, but it didn't work. Then the doctors tried an "external version". Oh, good times. Then they tried it again the morning I came in with contractions, thinking I was in the early stages of labor. Still nothing. A nurse confided in me while she was checking my chart that there's "usually a reason the baby won't turn. Babies know best," She assured me, smiling. She was right. After a successful c-section they saw that the umbilical cord was wrapped all around her neck and had she turned...well, baby knows best.
So there you have it. Two very different pregnancies, two radically different deliveries. Two unique, awesome little people.
This one is going his/her own course as well. So far it's the, "constant discomfort in my lower back and sometimes very oogy in the morning, sometimes not" pregnancy.
But just like the others, this baby likes the cottage cheese, too. Mmm. Cottage cheese. Check.
Only the slightest bit of "ooginess" for about 20-30 minutes each morning, during which I would just sit still on the couch or at the kitchen table sipping water until I felt better. Check.
Annoying shortness of breath sensation from about 5 weeks onward, actually caused by hormones, not really related to the lungs themselves. Check.
Absolute, ravenous hunger for entire first trimester, eating whatever was within reach, from morning until night. Especially craving cottage cheese. Mmmm, cottage cheese. Check.
Constant compulsion to nap. Check.
I had all these symptoms with David. I had them all with Sofia. Things were just as I remembered them. David was a big baby, born at 9 lbs, 7 oz. and 23 inches long. 26 hour labor, no drugs. After him I felt like I could take over the world. After about a month of sleep, of course. I imagined the next birth to be a lot like the first. But then things with Sofia changed. At about five months into my pregnancy a new sensation emerged. It was the feeling that I was no longer carrying an infant in my womb, but rather several bowling balls that at any second were going to drop right out of me and go crashing through the floor boards, into the basement. It was awful. Really awful. This is what I felt at the very end of my pregnancy with David, only during the last week or so. Why was this happening so soon? My midwives didn't seem concerned. They said the second you often carry lower because of the muscles having loosened up, etc. etc. That seemed logical enough but this feeling did not feel right. I wore one of those awful belts to help support my gianormous belly, but it didn't do much. Two weeks before I was due I was having a check up and I asked my midwife about how big she guessed the baby would be. She felt my belly and poked and prodded for a few minutes and then she stopped and frowned.
"Well, that's not right," she said.
Immediately I begin panicking. The baby has three legs. Or maybe two butts. I knew something was not right. I just knew it. "What is it?" I whisper.
"I think she's breech."
Huh. I wasn't expecting that. In fact that was one of the things I never worried about for a second. Only 3% of babies are born breech so as odds go it wasn't on my list of likely problems.
She brought in a portable ultrasound machine and confirmed her suspicions. She pointed out the head and legs to me but I had to take her word for it because the image was too grainy and I couldn't make out a thing.
Since doctors and midwives nowadays have very little experience delivering breech babies (except by c-section) I was instructed on how to do exercises to try and "turn" Sofia into the head first position. I did a modified "downward dog" (or whatever it was) move faithfully for the last two weeks of my pregnancy, but it didn't work. Then the doctors tried an "external version". Oh, good times. Then they tried it again the morning I came in with contractions, thinking I was in the early stages of labor. Still nothing. A nurse confided in me while she was checking my chart that there's "usually a reason the baby won't turn. Babies know best," She assured me, smiling. She was right. After a successful c-section they saw that the umbilical cord was wrapped all around her neck and had she turned...well, baby knows best.
So there you have it. Two very different pregnancies, two radically different deliveries. Two unique, awesome little people.
This one is going his/her own course as well. So far it's the, "constant discomfort in my lower back and sometimes very oogy in the morning, sometimes not" pregnancy.
But just like the others, this baby likes the cottage cheese, too. Mmm. Cottage cheese. Check.
13 Comments:
At 12:21 PM, Anonymous said…
Oh, I hear you. Without the breech thing, but still, I relate. ;)
My son sat real high, and I was in real labor for 24 hours or so. I had some ooginess too, whatever.
I was about four months pregnant with my daughter when my left leg went completely numb. Freaking out, I went to the doctor, and they just said, well, the baby's sitting on a nerve. Sorry.
Thanks. She sat on the nerve, um, until she was born. And my entire ninth month was spent doing strange excercises wherein I looked like a camel, just trying to get her OFF my pelvic floor. My god she was uncomfortable! But her labor? Eight hours. And I wasn't trying to figure out what my body was doing the entire time, either.
It's funny you posted this. I was getting new glasses yesterday and was talking with the two women there. The one fitting my glasses was my age, very laid-back. The other one was probably 22 or 23, very pregnant, and talking incessantly about breastfeeding. I finally looked at the woman fitting me and said, "Is this her first baby?" She responded, "Can't you tell?"
Turned out she had three kids. So we just sat there as I waited for my sunglasses to be finished kind of staring at her as she lectured us on how things would go, sounding very much like the "What to Expect..." book.
Needless to say we shared many "wait until she's been up for 36 hours and is covered in spit-up" looks. ;)
At 2:36 PM, Kristen said…
Oh, a numb leg for five months... what fun! I had a numb toe for several months after I first met Ernesto...not a pregnancy thing, maybe a new love thing. He still calls me "numb toe" on occasion.
That's funny about the expectant mom. Oh, we knew so much back then, didn't we? Only to have everything we read in those books turned upside down. I picked up my old copy of "What To Expect" a few weeks back and I had to put it down after a few paragraphs. What a bunch of hooey.
At 11:43 PM, Anonymous said…
Hmmm . . . are you, like, pregnant again?
At 8:14 AM, Kristen said…
Why, how could you guess? You missed the big reveal post, though. This was not it.
At 10:36 PM, Anonymous said…
Two butts. Hee. I shouldn't laugh at that or my next kid will have two butts but I can't help it.
I'm a dork.
At 11:46 PM, Anonymous said…
OH baby fever. My best friend just called and said she's pregnant with twins.
I'm in baby quilt heaven. ;)
At 9:55 AM, Anonymous said…
I once watched "A Baby Story" episode on TLC in which the baby was breech close to labor and the doctor successfully turned it beforehand on the outside with the method you mentioned.
I remember a family story in which my cousin was discovered to be breech during my Aunt's labor (33 years ago), and apparently an excellent nurse was able to turn him successfully DURING labor.
I just don't understand with all the technology we have how they had no way of knowing that Sophia had the cord wrapped around her neck. You'd think something like that would show up on an ultrasound or something.
I'd like to say I am amazed at her ability to keep herself in the proper position best for her own safety, but I've always trusted in the instinctual knowledge of an unborn baby. Too bad a lot of people don't (want to) recognize that.
At 1:05 PM, Kristen said…
Jenny- If your next kid is actually born with two butts I will take full responsibility and send you many, many boxes of diapers, as you're really going to need them.
Melissa- Twins!! That is very exciting!! I think it's great when other people have twins. I look like I'm carrying twins, but I'm pretty sure I'm not.
At 1:16 PM, Kristen said…
Jody- I know they have very sophisticated ultrasound technology now, but it's not readily used and probably too expensive right now to be covered by most insurance plans. But the images are absolutely unbelievable...I would love to have one of those done this time. And yes! Babies are super smart, super intuitive. Much more than we give them credit...
At 6:02 AM, Anonymous said…
Oh my God...double diapers.
Suddenly this is not funny at all.
At 4:46 AM, Flea said…
Oh my goodness, oh my goodness, When was this revealing post about the good news because I totally missed it!!!
Darn! Congrats guys, I am so sorry i didn't know (yet). Whow! Phew! What can I say, I hate loosing out on such cool news!
When, where, how? umh just kidding?
When are you due, will do!
At 8:28 AM, Kristen said…
Hannelie- Oh, it was just a brief mention at the end of a recent post...I actually thought that more people would have missed it! I have just passed the 12 week mark actually and am due in early April. I'm pleased that I get to hibernate all winter during my pregnancy!
At 6:53 AM, Flea said…
Fantastic news all the same. Congrats again! You are 1/3 there already.
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